The Power of Praying Together
Prayer is one of the most intimate things a couple can do together. Beyond sharing life’s daily moments, praying together creates a deep spiritual bond that fosters trust, communication, and resilience. Yet, despite its benefits, many couples struggle to make prayer a consistent part of their relationship.
Why Praying Together Matters
Research has shown that couples who pray together experience stronger relationships. According to a study by the National Association of Marriage Enhancement, couples who pray together daily have a divorce rate of less than 1%, compared to the national average of around 40-50%. Another study published in the Journal of Family Psychology found that prayer helps couples navigate conflict, increase emotional intimacy, and strengthen their commitment to one another.
Beyond statistics, many couples testify that praying together provides peace, clarity, and a greater sense of unity in their relationship.
Common Barriers to Praying Together
Despite the benefits, many couples struggle to establish a prayer routine. Here are some of the most common obstacles:
Feeling Awkward or Vulnerable – Prayer is deeply personal, and sharing it with another person—especially a spouse—can feel uncomfortable at first.
Different Spiritual Backgrounds – If one partner is more spiritually active than the other, there may be hesitation or reluctance to pray together.
Busy Schedules – Between work, family, and other commitments, setting aside time to pray together can be a challenge.
Uncertainty About How to Start – Some couples aren’t sure what to say, how long to pray, or how to make it meaningful.
Fear of Judgment – Many people worry that their prayers won’t be “good enough” or that their spouse will judge their words.
Tips for Starting to Pray Together
If you and your spouse want to begin praying together but aren’t sure where to start, here are some practical steps:
1. Start Small
Prayer doesn’t have to be long or complicated. Begin with a short prayer before meals or bedtime, and let it grow naturally over time.
2. Set a Specific Time
Consistency is key. Whether it’s in the morning, before bed, or on a weekly date night, scheduling prayer time makes it a habit.
3. Hold Hands While Praying
Physical touch, like holding hands, can create a stronger sense of connection while praying.
4. Use Scripture or Guided Prayers
If you’re unsure what to pray, use a passage like Philippians 4:6 ("Do not be anxious about anything…") or recite the Lord’s Prayer (Matthew 6:9-13) together. Prayer books and apps can also provide guidance.
5. Pray for Each Other’s Needs
Ask your spouse what’s on their heart and pray specifically for them. This fosters emotional closeness and shows that you truly care.
6. Be Honest and Open
Prayer isn’t about perfection; it’s about connection. Don’t worry about saying the “right” words—God cares more about sincerity than eloquence.
7. Give Thanks Together
Make gratitude a key part of your prayers. Thanking God for your spouse and relationship reinforces love and appreciation.
The Blessing of Praying Together
Couples who pray together often find that their relationship becomes stronger, more resilient, and more joyful. Prayer fosters intimacy, builds trust, and invites God into the heart of the relationship.
If you and your spouse don’t currently pray together, consider taking the first step today. It may feel small at first, but over time, it can transform your relationship in ways you never imagined.
Do you and your spouse pray together? Share your experiences or tips in the comments below!
